“The reality is - I thought hiring a life coach, sounded great but I honestly had no idea what I was getting myself into. Even after our first couple of phone calls - I was still holding back a little - unsure about how much I wanted to open up and unsure of what my goals really were. In my mind - my "life goals" were to take care of myself by working out and eating right and being positive. That was it - but those are only surface goals. The real goals were far deeper than I could have imagined.
The first day and moment of reality for me was when Marcy asked me " Why do you love yourself?" ... I spouted off all these things I am GOOD at, and everything I do that keeps life operating for my family - and she said to me "That is all great, but none of that describes why you love yourself." I sat there dumbfounded for a moment and realized that indeed I had no idea why. We named my program "90 Days to Love Myself" and that set off my ultimate goal.
Throughout the program, we reached through some murk and pain and trauma I had experienced and discussed my own issues of guilt and resentment and control that I held deep to me. During one of our calls discussing marital problems, Marcy asked me if I forgave myself. FORGAVE MYSELF. I was blown away. She said to me that in order for me to heal my mind, body, and spirit I had to forgive myself for my own participation in the things that had gone wrong in my marriage, that I had to forgive my family for things I resented from my childhood - and once I could do that - I could move forward. This hit me to the core. Not once in my life did I feel like I had to forgive myself. I always looked at those who did wrong to me as I had to forgive them and never looked at myself for where my participation may have been or even just letting go of my past. I harbored so much resentment and anger that I was stuck.
Over the remaining weeks, I grew stronger and happier and took the advice and goals that Marcy suggested, and worked with them to create my best self. I found forgiveness and compassion in ways I didn't know I needed to. Each class and each week I looked forward to more and more and each time I was more excited for everything that I had accomplished and how I was feeling. I had a purpose and meaningful conversation to share. By our last week, Marcy asked me again "Why do you love yourself" Instantly I answered "I love myself because I'm a badass bitch. I am stronger than I ever knew. I am more beautiful than I realized. I admire my ability to give and forgive others. I am loving, I am caring and I am capable"
I loved this program and our relationship so much that I now plan to do monthly check-ins and continue maintaining and working through goals I have with Marcy ... I plan to continue my journey in being my best self and I am beyond grateful that I had the opportunity to find myself again.”